When it comes time to move someone with memory loss into a memory care community, it can be a touchy subject. They may not want to make a move, may not understand what’s going on or they may be anxious about all the changes a move will bring. Although it may be difficult, moving a loved one into a memory care community might be the very best option for them, providing them with the engaging lifestyle they desire, all with the dedicated and expert care they deserve. Because of this, it can help to know how to make a move easier and less stressful for both you and your loved one.
According to Alison Wall, Senior Living Consultant at TreVista Antioch, an assisted living and memory care community in Antioch, CA, making the move to a memory care community a successful one has everything to do with knowing the dos and don’ts. “If your loved one is feeling a particular way about the move and is anxious or even downright refuses to move, it can be difficult to feel confident in your decision, even if they may have stated this is what they preferred in the past,” says Alison. “Try to be patient and consider how you would feel in their place. Focus on ways to make this transition simpler on them while still allowing them to help if they prefer. Gathering as much knowledge as you can ahead of the move will also help to ensure you are prepared for anything that comes your way. This can give you the confidence you need, while helping you provide the care and experience your loved one deserves.”
The Dos of Moving Your Loved One into Memory Care
When moving into a new community, there are plenty of things you can do to make the transition as smooth as possible for both you and your loved one. Try some of the following dos from the Mayo Clinic®.
- Plan ahead. Tour the community that has been chosen ahead of time. Consider what pieces of furniture can be brought along, ask for a list of items to pack or even bring your loved one for some activities so they can get better acquainted with the community.
- Add familiar touches to their space ahead of time. If it’s possible to begin moving some of your loved one’s items in before they move, it’s best to do so. Strive to make it feel and look more like their home so they are more comfortable and at-ease when they arrive.
- Move at their best time of day. If your loved one is typically at their very best in the morning, begin the move then. Waiting until afternoon or late evening can usually cause those with memory loss to become agitated, stressed and even aggressive.
- Remain positive and be understanding. Again, it’s important to be patient and try to think about how you would feel making a move from your home into a memory care community. Often, this home is what they’ve known for the bulk of their life, and it’s no small feat to move to a memory care community, no matter how much of a lifestyle upgrade it is.
- Stay in touch. Talk to their care team often and check in with your loved one as well. Give them a call, plan a visit with them or join them for an activity. This can help to elevate their mood.
Moving to Memory Care Don’ts
Making the move with your loved one to a memory care community can also be full of don’ts. Before making the move with your loved one, consider some of the following things you shouldn’t do.
- Don’t tell them about the move too far in advance. If your loved one has shown signs of agitation and anxiety about making a move before, don’t tell them months or weeks in advance about the move. Instead, wait until a few days before, as this can keep them from worrying too much.
- Refrain from bringing too many items. Memory care communities are only so big and there’s only so much that will fit into your loved one’s space. Bring only their favorite items and what they actually use to prevent the room from becoming too cluttered or confusing.
- Don’t expect your loved one to love it right away. It’s going to take some time to adjust. You can’t expect someone to move into a new place and make new friends instantly or immerse themselves into activities as soon as they can. It’s best not to nag or force them to try activities. Give them some time and check in with their care team to see how your loved one is adjusting, over time they will begin to join activities and make new friends, loving their community.
For more information or helpful tips on the dos and don’ts of moving your loved one to a memory care community, contact the team at TreVista Antioch. We would be happy to help you navigate this sometimes tricky transition while providing you with the tools and support you need to ensure a successful move for your loved one with dementia. Call us today at 925•329•6292.
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Family-owned and operated, Agemark Senior Living is the new owner of TreVista Antioch. Known for creating warm, welcoming communities, vibrant lifestyles and engaging programming, Agemark has been one of the most premier and trusted senior living providers since 1987. As Agemark’s newest community, TreVista Antioch is located on 10 acres in a prime location close to shopping and local attractions, as well as the great outdoors. Our beautiful community features a personalized, resident-centric approach to care that provides support, all while helping residents live full, connected lives.
At TreVista Antioch, we provide assisted living and memory care set in a beautiful environment that not only meets our residents’ needs but makes them, as well as their families, feel more at home. Although our gorgeous community is a plus, we truly believe it’s our programming and caring, dedicated staff that makes TreVista home. With our family-oriented inspiration and resident-centric approach, our residents flourish and experience days full of joy and meaning. Our staff learns each resident’s likes and dislikes and their values and pasts, right down to the dreams they never thought they could accomplish, in order to customize their care and make their dreams a reality.
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